Bride Says Friend 'Betrayed' Her Trust by Wearing 'Ill-Fitting, Cheap' Suit for Wedding Instead of One She Chose

A bride says she feels "completely deceived" by her close friend after he chose to wear his own suit for his role as "bridesman" instead of the one she selected.

In a lengthy post on Reddit, the bride began by declaring that her post was "a rant about how my friend betrayed my trust and lied to me on my wedding day." She went on to recount how she had recently celebrated her wedding but later discovered that her bridesman Carl — whom she described as one of her oldest friends — did not order the suit she and her husband had picked out for all of the men in the wedding party.

Instead, she wrote, he "chose to wear his own ill-fitting, cheap sports coat and pants."

"While the color was pretty similar, it was completely obvious that he did not match my husband’s suit or the suits of the groomsmen," she continued.

While the couple and their wedding party were snapping photos together at the wedding, the bride and groom asked Carl what happened to his suit and he told them "it never came." When they asked why he never informed them that his suit was missing, he replied, "I didn’t want to add it to the bride’s plate.”

Later, as the group was lining up for the ceremony, the groom asked Carl if he needed help getting a refund for the suit not arriving and Carl said there was "no need for a refund" as he never paid a deposit.

"The wheels are spinning in my head at this point," the bride recalled in her post. "Well, it turns out that Carl never intended to buy the correct suit. He even deceived me by sending a picture of himself to my bridesmaid group chat wearing the fake 'suit' two weeks before the wedding."

The maid-of-honor told the bride that Carl had admitted to her six weeks before the wedding that he hadn't purchased the suit yet. "She urged him to order it right away but apparently he never did. She doesn’t think he ever intended to, that he was just being cheap," the bride wrote.

She continued, "If money was an issue, my husband and I would’ve bought it for him — no questions asked. But he didn’t ask. And I don’t think money is an issue, based on the fact that he goes on out-of-state vacations once a month."

The bride said the whole deception has left her feeling "heartbroken and furious."

"It’s not really about the aesthetic, it’s about lying to me and to my husband on our wedding day. And it’s about how this taints my memories of this day," she argued. "I hate that he did this. I’ll look at my photos and for the rest of my life know that he was tot -

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ally creepy and devious about the dumbest thing — a $180 suit."

The bride ended her post by saying she has not yet talked to Carl about the situation as she wants to take some time to "cool off" first. "I’m curious if he will even own up to," she wrote.

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In the comments, many people sympathized with the bride's frustration and hurt feelings.

"So sorry to hear this happened. Your feelings are incredibly valid," one Redditor wrote. "You seem like a very understanding person who would have helped him get the suit if he had mentioned he needed help. Unfortunately, it seems that he had made up his mind that he wasn't going to use the suit for whatever reason and lied to you about it."

Someone else told the bride to brush it off and let Carl own his actions. "He’s cheap. He probably borrowed someone else’s suit. Which is why it didn’t fit him. He did show up. In a suit the correct color. It wasn’t the right size. Looked ridiculous. That’s on him," they wrote.

Another person urged the bride not to let Carl choosing not to buy the suit be "the thing that defines your wedding day."

"You need to push it right down in the memory list and think about all the fun and good parts of the day, and your husband," they wrote.

Still, several commenters questioned why the bride was so worked up about Carl's wedding attire.

"I’m sorry you’re upset but I do think you’re taking this kind of far. It’s a suit, not something worth being 'heartbroken and furious' over. It’s really expensive to be in someone’s wedding in addition to attending the wedding. Even though you say he travels every month, you don’t ever really know someone’s financial situation," someone wrote, adding, "Just drop it and move on. You're making this bigger than it needs to be."

Another agreed: "Let it go. This is so not worth the mental energy."

Others encouraged the bride to have an honest conversation with Carl and try to give him the benefit of the doubt, as there could be more to the story. "As much as you think you know his finances, you don't. Whatever is going on, he should have been honest. I get that — he did lie, and that really sucks. But try to find out the 'why' first," they suggested.

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